1. Run through and summary of all boundaries posts.
2. Tools to help you be more secure and confident in your relationships and in your life.
3. The importance of constantly reviewing our lives to assess where we are at.
4. When we play the 'blame game' we surrender our power.

What We Covered This Week:

Week 16 Round Up

In this Round Up I speak about the most important tools we need to feel secure in relationships, have confidence, and feel in charge of ourselves as we go about life - boundaries.

The preconceived idea of boundaries being forceful or aggressive are inaccurate. Boundaries are literally about self-care. I encourage us to always review our situations and ask ourselves: What is best for me now? For my family? For my relationship? For my career?

If we’re feeling burnt out, irritated, depressed, are playing the victim, or are in and out of survival mode, these are signs we would do well to pause and see what needs to be adjusted in our lives.

The urge is to blame other people, but we can’t control other people. We are not powerless in our lives. We have a lot of power and we need to start utilising it.

Boundaries remind us of our power and also our responsibility to ourselves in life.

I go over my introductory seven steps to the art of boundary setting:

Step 1 – Assess The Person or Situation: What’s on offer here and how can I look after myself?

Step 2 – Notice Your Emotions – They Are Your Ultimate Guide.

Step 3 – Calmly Express What You Need: We are not Superhuman and that’s okay.

Step 4 – Realise Our Thoughts & Emotions Are Our Responsibility: Emotional boundaries help us stay in control of our emotions and thoughts.

Step 5 - Recognise In Our Personal Relationship We Let The Basics Slide: It’s often in our most intimate relationships we can be the most boundaryless. Be accountable.

Step 6 - Live Your Life In A Boundaried Way: Living a boundaried life is a mind-set.

Step 7 – Boundaries For Co-Dependents: It’s all too easy for us to focus on the people around us and how they are ‘causing’ the ‘problems’.

When we focus on these 7 steps our confidence will start to increase. We will feel free. People will comment about how relaxed we look. We will be calmer. We will like ourselves. That’s worth A LOT.