How It Works

Everything you need to know

Therapy is a process. From the start of therapy we explore the origins of our struggles and issues. We raise our awareness to understand what some of our patterns and processes are. I teach my clients what to begin noticing so we can see what behaviours are problematic and explore how to overcome them. We reflect on the past to understand what we’ve learnt in our lives that may not have been helpful and is still impacting our lives today. We empower ourselves with knowledge and personal insight into ourselves.

I HAVE CREATED THIS EXACT THERAPY FORMAT RIGHT HERE. Starting at the beginning, you can develop your understanding of what is causing you pain in your love life and why. Developing a strong foundation of insight to take responsibility for our lives, we can then build on that and learn the ways in which we wish to be in relationships moving forward.

The sections below show you the trajectory with which to move and how to work through my online teachings. Start at the very beginning as you would in therapy, or jump straight to the subject you would like to learn more about in each section.

For the full experience, start with Understanding Your Past, and work your way through all the material. This is the best way to consume the teachings and apply the various strategies that I hope will bring powerful change in your life and relationships. There are also standalone subjects that you can jump to if you feel there are certain areas of your life that you need to focus on right away.

Yes, relationships can be really hard. But if you're anything like me, you’re prepared to put in the effort to grow and learn. You just want someone to tell you what works. I take you through it, step-by-step, so you know exactly what to do.

Let’s do this!

What we do today was taught to us by how we were treated, what we saw and what we experienced growing up. It all lives in us unconsciously and shapes how we behave in our relationship right now. In order to know why we do what we do and what to do about it we need to start here.

understand your past

Once we have uncovered all our patterns and identified our scripts then we can apply effective tools and strategies to help us stay in the present and not be triggered by our automated trauma responses and sabotage ourselves or our relationships.

be fully present

Self-care is crucial to having a good relationship with ourselves and others. It is classified as any activity that we do to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. When we prioritise ourselves we will choose the things that are inline with what we want for ourselves and our future.