Being Mindful And Present In Your Life
Once we have uncovered all our patterns and identified our scripts, then we can apply effective tools and strategies to help us stay in the present. We need to be mindful not to be triggered by our automated trauma responses and sabotage ourselves - or our relationships.
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How To Break Your Patterns
relationship patterns
The Art Of Setting Boundaries
Boundaries
How To Be More Secure In Relationships
self-confidence
How Do You Behave When You Get Angry?
Anger responses
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The Five Biggest Losing Strategies
losing strategies
The Five Languages Of Love
love languages
The Top Ten Defence Mechanisms
Ego defences
Strategies To Help You Cope
anxiety
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A common boundary problem is disowning our choices and trying to lay the responsibility for them on someone else. Think for a moment how often we use the phrases, “I had to”, “She/he made me” or “Well, someone had to” when explaining why we did or did not do something.
BOUNDARIEs
Patterns in the context of relationships are the unconscious repetition of behaviours that will perpetuate what we expect from the world and other people based on how we were raised and our previous relational experiences (what was imprinted / programmed into us).
How To Break Your Patterns
relationship Patterns
A common boundary problem is disowning our choices and trying to lay the responsibility for them on someone else. Think for a moment how often we use the phrases, “I had to”, “She/he made me” or “Well, someone had to” when explaining why we did or did not do something.
The Art Of Setting Boundaries
boundaries
We all have our own unique history of childhood difficulty or inconsistency, past relationship upsets and the insecurities, assumptions and fears that are a result of those. Try these strategies when you get triggered by your partner and learn to react in healthier ways that don't damage the relationship.
How To Be More Secure In Relationships
self-confidence
These are the four most typical behaviours when it comes to dealing with anger in relationships. We need to be very serious about trying to reduce these behaviours if we are to have constructive conversations with our loved ones.
How Do You Behave When You get Angry?
anger responses
There are 5 main Losing Strategies that couples employ during disagreements that create distance. Mainly we learn relationship patterns from the relationships that are modelled to us growing up by our parents. Then as we grow it is their relationship with each other that starts to really solidify what we think is acceptable behaviour.
The Five Biggest Losing Strategies
losing strategies
Managing differences in a relationship is a necessity, and something many of us struggle with. We all give and receive love differently and with a little insight into these key differences we are better equipped to confidently communicate love well.
The Five Languages Of Love
love languages
Defence mechanisms (also known as Ego Defences) were identified by Sigmund Freud and then further developed by his daughter Anna Freud. Defence mechanisms are psychological strategies that are unconsciously used to protect a person from anxiety arising from ‘unacceptable’ thoughts or feelings.
The Top Ten Defence Mechanisms
ego defences
Anxiety lives in the body and is kept alive by our thinking. Our bodies begin operating in a permanent state of fight, flight or freeze, because anxiety is about a perceived danger all the time. So physiologically, our nervous systems are responding to daily life as if it were warding off deadly threats constantly.
Strategies To Help You Cope
anxiety
During a panic attack, physical symptoms can build up very quickly. Here are some tools that can help you focus on activating your parasympathetic nervous system, which is the part that calms us down.
What To Do When You're Having A Panic Attack
Panic disorder
I'm Charisse, your online therapist.
I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years and in a relationship for over 15, and I know very well the traps we inevitably fall into. I’ve consolidated all my experience and every single tool and strategy that’s helped my clients overcome what was keeping them stuck, and put it ALL into these online teachings. I want to take away your confusion and show you just how much power you really have in relationships.
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